Zara asked 1 year ago

Assalamu alaykum wa Rahmatullahu wa Barakatuhu!
I was divorced women with a child. One and half year ago I have married to a man as a second wife but his wife only new about it later on his mother came to know and was angry to me telling that he has 4 children he doesn’t work on his 40’s his father supports him but time passed she got fine because of his son’s treated to leave the house if he made be divorced. Later things started to change as I’m not new to him he started telling that I knew how was the situation that is was my choice now do whatever you want because I have my family i can’t do anything to it. Although he tryed very much make equality but it it wasn’t easy because the pressure started being by his mom side and his wife that he does care about his children and that he is spending on me from his father’s money and his father even doesn’t know about it. It brought a lot of conflicts between us to so we divorced and make up again together but this latest one I asked khula and he accepted. He said he can’t anymore that’s too much pressure on him so I thought I would be fine to me to leave him and I did. Month later he again started telling that he needs me that Allah happened because he was angry and everything will be fine he want remmary to me again. On the same time his mom calling me and telling me do be agree let him talk to his father first because again he will lie and not his own money on you and he can’t be equal to you or you be agree for one day in week he visits you she said. 
I’m really in confusion I don’t want to be said every time that I’m be supported from his father side and plus if his father gets to know how his reaction is gonna be if says to divorce his son could again change to my side and leave me. But on the same time I’m afraid to lose somebody who is with me and changing husbands as one year pass hurts me alot. Please advise does he have to talk to his father in this case because he is still not working and depends financially on him and his mother’s against our marriage because of it surely affect later to us. 
He pushes me to do nikah as soon as possible please advise me or it’s just better to leave him and disappear from his life for both of us?