QuestionsCategory: Marriage & DivorceSeeking advice for marriage
Abdul Chaudhary asked 3 months ago

Salam au Alakim, 
I have a question for imam. I am 35 divorced guy living with parents. My previous wedding lasted only 8 months and been divorced for 2 years. Now I have a good compatibility with one girl who is divorced and have 2 boys. They are 13 and 11 and grown up. I’d like to marry her, however, family is extremely against it. Historically, they have been against of every girl I have brought to them over the last 10 years. Now they want me to marry a girl of their choice, fully arrange, meet once and get married. The worst part is they don’t even have any girl in their mind they can vouch for. It’s totally random but the source has to be theirs and not mine. I can’t relate to it as it can be very risky and I don’t give I’ll be fair with the girl.

I have two options as of right now 1. Go against parents will and marry this girl 2. Give up on marriage topic and decide to stay with parents and support them and give up on marriage and think about it again in 1-2 years.

Just tired of parents behavior and would love to seek your advice that what is the right way forward for me. I am not running away from my duties towards parents as I am the only son and have 3 sisters. All married in their homes.

Tired of trying to get married and start my life that it almost made me give up on it.

Looking forward to hear from you.

Abdul Chaudhary